Gary’s Fitness Blog

I am about half way through a book titled “Beyond Booked Solid” by Michael Port. The book is a business read, but I just read through a section that seemed to apply very well to an athlete’s attempt at a new fitness goal (Remember - Brad says we are all athletes!).

In the chapter, Projects - How to Get Things Done, Port goes through a list of “simple rules to get things done.” Of course the rules are designed to address a business project, but isn’t taking on a half marathon, marathon or a triathlon a project? A project on yourself!

Think of all the management skills you have to use when you begin this journey of endurance: scheduling workouts, relationship building, family management, coordinating outsourced help (from coach, trainer, nutritionist, physical therapist, etc)… it really is a project.

Reading through the list of rules that Port shares, the one that really made me think about this connection was the last rule - “Have a Compelling Story for Your Project.” Let me share a couple quick quotes from that section:

“Keeping your passion and your focus depends on telling and retelling the story of your project” … “[your story] will become increasingly important as you face problems, setbacks, or any type of project breakdown”

Discussing some research by Dan McAdam’s, author of The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By, Port talks about the value of our story to our behaviors:

“.. when we tell our life stories, we are really just telling ourselves who we are and why. McAdams found, for example that successful people often tell a life story characterized by overcoming adversity, connections with others, and a belief in the future. In fact, the narrative themes we choose when we tell our life story may well be diriving factors in our behavior.”

The Direct Application to the Journey of Endurance:

Some of the stories that I’ve heard over the years are pretty amazing.  When I think about the people that give me motivation to continue my own journey, it is because they have had a compelling story.  Here are a couple stories:

- Gordo Byrn - now he is a professional triathlete, finished top five at Ironman multiple times and has a performance lab in his basement in Boulder, Colorado.  But that hasn’t always been the truth, nor was it the story that inspired me to call him my hero in triathlon.  At the age of 30, Gordo was a beginner, just like most of us - with a full time job, etc, etc.  He used to talk often of his process to “come off the couch” and become the professional athlete.  This story is actually the force that compelled a masters swimmer to tell me about him back in 2001, and while the professional Gordo is interesting, the couch to athlete story is motivating.

- Brad (right here at sweat365) -  The title of his blog is pretty revealing, “Fat Kid becomes Ironman.”  Over the past year, I’ve had the ability to read and share in Brad’s story because he has been open to us readers through his blog.  It is a story that many people probably relate to, especially when they decide to take on this endurance project.

There are many more stories that I’ve heard at races, on blogs and lately on podcasts (steverunner, zentriathlon and confessionsofarunner), but one thing to think about when figuring out your own story is this:

Take control of your story.  Define your own path.  Don’t be afraid to dream (and become) big. Be positive.

I have written about the benefit of positive “story telling” in a post I titled:  Talk Yourself into a Better Triathlon Performance.  It was about the thoughts I had after reading Bobby McGee’s book, “Magical Running,” integrated with some ideas that I shared about - Mental Training for Endurance Athletes.

One of the more personal stories that I’ve shared related to self-image and running was a story I shared a couple years ago, Define Yourself (and Be Positive).  The point was of sharing that story is that we will have face our doubters.  We’ll have people telling us we can’t do that because we are not good enough, fast enough, strong enough, healthy enough or anything-not-like-them-enough.

It might be that we’ll have more people telling us that we can’t than telling us we can.  I even had a guy continually telling me I was “running too fast” - “was going to bonk” - “wasn’t going to finish” while running my first marathon.  (Jerk!)

But that’s the secret.  Develop your story.  Define who you are, what you want to accomplish and then share it.  The platform here at sweat365 gives you that ability.  And then sell that story to every person you see.

Micheal Port says in his book, “Never discount the power of the stories you tell about your projects.  Stories articulate why a project is important to everyone involved, and they keep the project on track.”

I’d love to hear your story.  If you’ve already constructed your story - Please share it by posting a link in the comments of this post.  We can all improve by reading other compelling stories.

– the picture is just a reminder of what truly makes me happy–

On September 9th I accomplished a goal that I’ve had since around 1999/2000 (I can’t remember the exact date that I put it down on paper but somewhere around then). I finished an Ironman Triathlon. I swam 2.4 miles, I biked 112 miles and I ran 26.2 miles all in 11 hours and 12 minutes.

What a great accomplishment and milestone in my life! But the question that I’ve been dealing with for the past week and a half is this; If accomplishing a goal like that meant so much to me, after sacrificing so many hours of my life, after sacrificing financial rewards and stability, after involving so many friends and family in my circle of support - why do I feel so empty?

If you read my analysis of the race results you will see that even then I was having a little difficulty enjoying what had just happened. Enjoying the moment.

I don’t want everyone to think that I’m walking around all depressed and feeling sorry for myself, that’s not true. But I do have this inner feeling that makes me feel like I should have enjoyed the finish a little more than I did.

Possibly the fact that I’m not really satisfied is a good thing, from a performance perspective. The dissatisfaction might be a strong motivator for me to train this winter and race more in 2008. That personality characteristic just might be an ingredient that exists in the personality profile of champion athletes.

I don’t have clear answers to these ideas, I have a lot more questions. Here’s a big one; If I’m not as happy as I want to be right now, What will give me a “10″ on the happiness meter?

A book that I’ve been reading has put some light on this subject, Stumbling on Happiness. The book isn’t a self help manual or workbook that leads you to happiness, so if you need help finding happiness, this is not a whole lot of help. But the author (Daniel Gilbert) does go through all the issues that humans face when trying to find happiness. The following are some interesting ideas that I’ve pulled from book that have helped me put my Ironman experience in context. Maybe they’ll help you understand your little journey too:

1. We commonly do things now so that our future selves will be happy. But how well do we know our future selves? How well do we know what will make us happy in the future? — We all think we know exactly will make us happy in the future. We are almost always wrong. — So even if I won an Ironman, would that give me a 10. What are you chasing to be happy?

2. When people day dream they see themselves succeeding rather than fumbling or failing. — This makes sense, why would you want to day dream about failure? The issue that I see becoming a problem is that when we day dream we rarily inject any reality into those dreams. Or, we may not set forth a plan that would help those day dreams become a reality. — How many Ironman goals are just day dreams that are not based upon any signal / sign of real events. i.e. my cycling times at Wisconisn. — I had a major problem seperating day dreaming in high school in relation to basketball. Unfortunatley a lot of day dreaming occured during games! I had troubles seperating out the thoughts of the crowd (girls) and actually competing. Good thing I’ve matured?

3. Fear and anxiety can prove to be a powerful motivator.

4. “When we imagine the future, we often misimagine the future events whose emotional consequence we are attempting to weigh.” Therefore when we actually experience that future event we maybe in a position of dissappointment. — I think this is a big reason why people always look toward the future in general and feel like it will be better than today (unless there is serious depression), the ability to find happiness is to realize the “now”. Today can make us happy. We can become fulfilled today.

5. “Researchers have discovered that when people find it easy to imagine an event they overestimate the likelihood that it will actually occur….. we tend to overestimate the likelihood that good events will actually happen to us, which leads us to be unrealistically optimistic about our futures.” — Yikes!

To finish my notes from this book for now I’ll share a quote the author shared from Blaise Pascal (philosopher and mathematician):

“All men seek happiness. This is without exception. Whatever different means they employ, they all tend to this end. The cause of some going to war, and of others avoiding it, is the same desire in both, attended with different views. The will never takes the least step but to this object. This is the motive of every action of every man, even those who hang themselves.”

Will winning an Ironman make me happy? Probably not. Not if I can’t find a way to be happy with where I’m at right now as a triathlete. I may say that it would make me happy, but remember, we are all pretty poor at determining what will make us happy in the future. It isn’t always better tomorrow, so start living today.

Spend some time in prayer, meditate for 10 minutes, tell someone you love them and mean it, go have the most passionate sex you can, spend some time helping someone … those things are not goals, you can’t “accomplish” them - but you can do them today. You can be happy.

It has been a long time since I made an effort to consciously work on
my mental approach to racing. The last time I remember doing anything
consistently regarding my mental approach to health, fitness or racing
performance was the 2003 season.

That season happened to be my most consistent year from a performance point-of-view and one of the healthier years in my life. Here are some thoughts that I shared back then: Mental Training - for endurance athletes.

Now that I have neglected this focus for some time, I’ve been reading some new
materials, re-reading some old books, going back through my journals
and just trying to re-establish some old practices, such as my mindfulness meditation practice.

It has been an effort, just like any positive behavior change - I guess.
What I would like to do is start sharing some of the thoughts and ideas
I am having and trying to implement.

Here’s the first idea: Talk yourself into a better triathlon performance.

I just read Bobby McGee’s book, Magical Running : A Unique Path to Running Fulfillment. If you have ever wanted to move beyond the typical sports psychology ideas, then I would suggest that you pick
up the book and work through it. It reads more like a workbook than a
text book and the practice is worth the time in my opinion.

The chapter that I seem to be going back to again and again is chapter two
- “Affirmed Running”. The shortest explanation of the material is, we
are who we say we are. And this is in a very literal sense. This means
that the words and vocabulary we use to describe ourselves is who we
will become.

As I take the effort and give attention to my vocabulary, I notice some interesting things. One thing that I’ve noticed is that I always describe myself as a slow/weak/poor/terrible swimmer. This self description of my swimming has become habit over the years and is so common that it has become almost a joke to myself. The interesting aspect is that by characterizing myself in this way, others’ perception of me is one of a poor swimmer too.

There are two aspects to this concept that I see:

1. Self-fulfilling prophecy. When we talk about ourselves in specific ways, our behaviors will commonly reinforce those attitudes. This results in our reality confirming what the perceptions of our “Self” has always been.

I usually describe myself as a poor swimmer, therefore I don’t enjoy swimming. That attitude means that I often skip a swim to go run/bike or anything else. The lack of swimming reinforces my perception because I don’t swim enough to improve my ability.

2. It doesn’t have to be a conscious vocabulary. The example of my swimming attitudes and behaviors is easy because it is a fairly observable behavior and apparent in my conversations. But what about the conversations that I have within myself that I am not consciously aware of? Are there negative discussions about who I am, what I have become or what I want to accomplish that I am not aware of?

What about this example: A triathlete begins their training as a young adult and works themselves into great shape over a period of 5 years. They set a goal to qualify for the Ironman World Championships in Kona and it is a real possibility for them. As the race nears, they continue their efforts towards their goal, but then begin to have a little self doubt. They notice thoughts creeping in that don’t support their goals. Things like,

“You can’t compete against people who have trained for longer”

or

“Your competition has been doing this since childhood. How can you compete with that?”

The thoughts seemingly come from nowhere because the athlete is naturally a confident person in all areas of life. The idea here is that sometimes there may be some thoughts that are implanted or ingrained into our thinking that are not the way we perceive our self.

The key that I am learning is that positive self affirmations are an activity we need to participate in whether we think we need to or not.

Bobby McGee mentions in his book that we don’t have to even believe the things we tell ourselves. Why? Because the subconscious mind is not a logical mind, it will believe and/or absorb whatever we feed it. It then leaves the conscious mind to do the analysis. This is a great lesson!

This idea isn’t only valuable within athletics. I’ve seen positive affirmation activities used to improve one’s health too. Specifically, I remember a discussion where a cancer survivor made it a habit to look at herself in a mirror everyday and speak positive affirmations about her cancer. The one I recall her saying was,

“My body is cancer free”

It didn’t matter to her if it was true or not. She was trying to create a new reality.

Sharing my current affirmations:

I sat down and wrote a list of current statements that I wanted to keep in front of me on a regular basis. Here they are:

- I am a STRONG Swimmer.
- I am HEALTHY!
- I prevail and persevere when others do not.
- I have a DEEP fitness built from 9 years of training.
- I train wisely.
- I always race well and according to plan.
- I only have to be excellent in this moment, this breathe, this step, this stroke, this pedal stroke.

That’s the first lesson on mental training I wanted to share. Here are two activities for you to do:

1. Make your own list of 5 positive affirmations about yourself.

2. Hang that list where you can see it daily or share it with someone who
is supportive of your goal. Share it here in the comments if nowhere
else.