Have a compelling story!
BobbyMcGee, Gordo, affirmations, destiny, mental skills, mental training, positive self talk, sports psychology, successful May 2nd, 2008I am about half way through a book titled “Beyond Booked Solid” by Michael Port. The book is a business read, but I just read through a section that seemed to apply very well to an athlete’s attempt at a new fitness goal (Remember - Brad says we are all athletes!).
In the chapter, Projects - How to Get Things Done, Port goes through a list of “simple rules to get things done.” Of course the rules are designed to address a business project, but isn’t taking on a half marathon, marathon or a triathlon a project? A project on yourself!
Think of all the management skills you have to use when you begin this journey of endurance: scheduling workouts, relationship building, family management, coordinating outsourced help (from coach, trainer, nutritionist, physical therapist, etc)… it really is a project.
Reading through the list of rules that Port shares, the one that really made me think about this connection was the last rule - “Have a Compelling Story for Your Project.” Let me share a couple quick quotes from that section:
“Keeping your passion and your focus depends on telling and retelling the story of your project” … “[your story] will become increasingly important as you face problems, setbacks, or any type of project breakdown”
Discussing some research by Dan McAdam’s, author of The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By, Port talks about the value of our story to our behaviors:
“.. when we tell our life stories, we are really just telling ourselves who we are and why. McAdams found, for example that successful people often tell a life story characterized by overcoming adversity, connections with others, and a belief in the future. In fact, the narrative themes we choose when we tell our life story may well be diriving factors in our behavior.”
The Direct Application to the Journey of Endurance:
Some of the stories that I’ve heard over the years are pretty amazing. When I think about the people that give me motivation to continue my own journey, it is because they have had a compelling story. Here are a couple stories:
- Gordo Byrn - now he is a professional triathlete, finished top five at Ironman multiple times and has a performance lab in his basement in Boulder, Colorado. But that hasn’t always been the truth, nor was it the story that inspired me to call him my hero in triathlon. At the age of 30, Gordo was a beginner, just like most of us - with a full time job, etc, etc. He used to talk often of his process to “come off the couch” and become the professional athlete. This story is actually the force that compelled a masters swimmer to tell me about him back in 2001, and while the professional Gordo is interesting, the couch to athlete story is motivating.
- Brad (right here at sweat365) - The title of his blog is pretty revealing, “Fat Kid becomes Ironman.” Over the past year, I’ve had the ability to read and share in Brad’s story because he has been open to us readers through his blog. It is a story that many people probably relate to, especially when they decide to take on this endurance project.
There are many more stories that I’ve heard at races, on blogs and lately on podcasts (steverunner, zentriathlon and confessionsofarunner), but one thing to think about when figuring out your own story is this:
Take control of your story. Define your own path. Don’t be afraid to dream (and become) big. Be positive.
I have written about the benefit of positive “story telling” in a post I titled: Talk Yourself into a Better Triathlon Performance. It was about the thoughts I had after reading Bobby McGee’s book, “Magical Running,” integrated with some ideas that I shared about - Mental Training for Endurance Athletes.
One of the more personal stories that I’ve shared related to self-image and running was a story I shared a couple years ago, Define Yourself (and Be Positive). The point was of sharing that story is that we will have face our doubters. We’ll have people telling us we can’t do that because we are not good enough, fast enough, strong enough, healthy enough or anything-not-like-them-enough.
It might be that we’ll have more people telling us that we can’t than telling us we can. I even had a guy continually telling me I was “running too fast” - “was going to bonk” - “wasn’t going to finish” while running my first marathon. (Jerk!)
But that’s the secret. Develop your story. Define who you are, what you want to accomplish and then share it. The platform here at sweat365 gives you that ability. And then sell that story to every person you see.
Micheal Port says in his book, “Never discount the power of the stories you tell about your projects. Stories articulate why a project is important to everyone involved, and they keep the project on track.”
I’d love to hear your story. If you’ve already constructed your story - Please share it by posting a link in the comments of this post. We can all improve by reading other compelling stories.
May 2nd, 2008 at 12:19 pm
Hey,
Thanks so much for the positive thinking. I had a rough day yesterday and most of it was my thoughts while I was running. See the night before (my night off of running) I had mapped out my entire mileage from now until October 12th. As I was running I was going over all the details in my head mileage I will be hitting and races to run. I just got to thinking about the madness of working 40 hours a week, being a single full time mom and a full time runner! I have it mapped out in my heaviest weeks of running I will have 3 consistent weeks at 60 miles per week. Although I have ran further before, it just seemed so far away with the shape or lack of shape I am in now.
What I do need to realize is that when I was in college I ran twice a day so that I could squeeze in 80 to 85 miles per week. I was going to school full time 13 hours a week. I worked full time at my job to pay rent and bills and I made it then, so I can make it now. I can still work, run and most importantly be a mom. Mom’s can have dreams too! That is why I am running this marathon because I have always wanted to do one and I want to show my daughter you always go for your goals and never give up no matter what.
I feel better today just had so much going at me at once after I mapped it all out! Crazy me, I am a running nerd! Out of all my friends running this race I am the only one who mapped out all of their runs! I have to be prepared. Again thanks! I will look you up on facebook.
Court
May 2nd, 2008 at 9:06 pm
This is Brett from Zen and the Art of Triathlon Podcast. Very honored to be grouped in with Steve Runner and confessionsofarunner. Ultra distance training teaches you how to overcome the most difficult obstacles. You learn that everything is temporary and if you just wait it out and don’t give up, it will get better. Great post.
May 4th, 2008 at 12:57 am
Gary, thanks for another great post!
May 15th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
Gary - I want to thank you for this post. In the short time I’ve been a part of sweat365, I’ve learned that everyone has a story. Some blessed with “athletic” genes, and some blessed with “hidden” athletic genes. But, we all have 1 thing in common…we sweat, we are athletes.
I’ve also learned that everyone here has something to share with someone else. We can all learn from each other. I’ve learned from you that there is an “art” to Endurance Racing. (I never thought someone could be in there right mind if they were to do 2 marathons in 8 days). I’ve learned from Lisa that if you move your arms, your legs will follow, we all can be runners. I’ve learned from Brad that, yes, indeed I am an athlete. I learned from Shelley to run with green/white stripe socks.
A little over a year ago, although I never officially had it tested, I’d say my % of body fat was 36% or more. I never even thought about having it tested. A few weeks ago I had it tested at 13.2%. A little over a year ago, I was considered morbidly obese, now, “very lean”. My blood pressure was 140/96 (if not higher) then, now 116/72. I am running in my first 8K Race on Sunday, my first sprint tri in July, and hope to do an Olympic distance tri in Sept. (I’m sure I might find a few more little runs in there somewhere).
A little over a year ago, I never thought I’d be an “athlete”, I never thought I’d one day become a “tri-athlete”. I don’t think I’ll ever be an Ironman finisher, but, I’ve learned that if you want something, you can get it.
We do all have stories to tell, and can find inspiration in everyone we come in contact with.
Thank you for teaching. Thanks to everyone at sweat for sharing their stories and being so supportive, and for becoming part of my “family”.
In sweat - I am Auggiesdad (http://auggiesdad.sweat365.com)
or
(http://sweat365.com/blog/2008/05/14/lifestyle-changes-yield-big-results/)
May 15th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Gary - I want to thank you for this post. In the short time I’ve been a part of sweat365, I’ve learned that everyone has a story. Some blessed with “athletic” genes, and some blessed with “hidden” athletic genes. But, we all have 1 thing in common…we sweat, we are athletes.
I’ve also learned that everyone here has something to share with someone else. We can all learn from each other. I’ve learned from you that there is an “art” to Endurance Racing. (I never thought someone could be in there right mind if they were to do 2 marathons in 8 days, but you did it). I’ve learned from Lisa that if you move your arms, your legs will follow (amongst a ton of other things), we all can be runners. I’ve learned from Brad that, yes, indeed I am an athlete. I learned from Shelley to run with green/white stripe socks.
A little over a year ago, although I never officially had it tested, I’d say my % of body fat was 36% or more. I never even thought about having it tested. A few weeks ago I had it tested at 13.2%. A little over a year ago, I was considered morbidly obese, now, “very lean”. My blood pressure was 140/96 (if not higher) then, now 116/72. I am running in my first 8K Race on Sunday, my first sprint tri in July, and hope to do an Olympic distance tri in Sept. (I’m sure I might find a few more little runs in there somewhere).
A little over a year ago, I never thought I’d be an “athlete”, I never thought I’d one day become a “tri-athlete”. I don’t think I’ll ever be an Ironman finisher, but, I’ve learned that if you want something, you can get it.
We do all have stories to tell, and can find inspiration in everyone we come in contact with.
Thank you for teaching. Thanks to everyone at sweat for sharing their stories and being so supportive, and for becoming part of my “family”.
In sweat - I am Auggiesdad